This is a question that men young and old have spent sleepless nights for ages trying to figure out. Unfortunately, most men go to their graves having had so little or no sexual contact with the women they desire. The advent of digital technologies and the internet is supposed to have helped people to easily meet people they are interested in.
More importantly, this technology must be making the availability to get laid much easier.
However, is this the case? It is true that digital technologies including social media and mobile phones have made it easier for people to access each other. On the flip side, they have made the process of getting sex to seem more complicated than ever. Fortunately, in this article I will show you how to get a girlfriend, or sex with a woman whenever you want:
- Without extravagant spending of your hard-earned cash.
- Without having to use manipulative techniques that often backfire.
- Without having to memorize cheesy pickup lines that get you nowhere.
- Or having to deal with last-minute resistance.
There go our million questions that have got just a simple answer. Understand people, understand women, work on yourself, talk to women, and then get laid. Sound’s easy right? For starters, I will admit that this sounds easier than it really is but with experience, it will become as easy as it sounds.
Don’t Be Manipulative
The key to getting laid more is not about the heavily touted convert techniques that try to compel or trick women to sleeping with you. Yes, it is possible to get sex with these methods but not often enough.
Moreover, you are likely to get low-quality women because only broken ones respond to these manipulative impulses. Sex is also not something you can bargain down on like goods in the market. If you approach it like that, your best chances of getting laid are by hooking up with a call girl.
To get laid, you need to know how to connect with people just like a true seducer. This is not just people you want to have sex with but to connect with people generally. As a result, you learn how to show genuine interest in people and in women as well.
Moreover, it will also help you change the perception of sex as a goal that needs to be conquered. This way you will have better chances of building a charming personality through understanding people and what makes them tick. Though sex appeal is important to get laid, it will not get you anywhere if you cannot connect with a woman in the first place.
Work on Yourself First
The best advice I can give you about how to pick up a girl is to create a great first impression. This entails, how you look, your body language, what you say and how you say it. You need to work on yourself as you approach girls, otherwise, you will be your own stumbling block.
First things first, you need to look good. Many men make the wrong assumption that women do not pay attention to looks. However, here’s the truth; women want to have sex and date handsome and generally attractive men. You don’t necessarily need to have the r. Universe’ looks.
However, you can make an effort to improve your appearance. This includes always being fashionably dressed. You should also learn to carry yourself confidently i.e. walk methodically and slowly with your back held upright.
Talk in a calm deep voice and be witty if you may. This will get you noticed by ladies and create a great first impression that will get you a step closer to getting laid.
The next step to getting laid like a bandit is to have some social intelligence. No matter how good you look and sex appeal you possess, you will not get laid if you do not say and mean the right things. This takes us to the next step.
You Must Understand Women
Now that you are good with people in general and you have worked on your sex appeal, it is about time you got to understand women. A great mistake that most men make is that they assume that all women are the same. The truth is, what might intrigue one woman might be a total turn off for another.
Some love the beat around the bush kind of flirting, while others perceive it as whimsical. Some want to be romanced while others prefer a more direct approach.
As such, being able to read people will come handy in this case to help you avoid attraction killing mistakes or to help you pull a conversation out of the landmines. Another aspect that makes some men get laid just like the way others order lunch is because they know what to look for.
It is all about being strategic. So instead of chasing every woman, they come across, they approach women who are looking for them. Let me help with this by showing you how to put women into three categories.
The first category is the “NO” women. These women will never sleep with you no matter what you do, or say. She’s simply not attracted to you or she is totally committed to another person. Thus, there is no amount of seduction and manipulation can change her mind.
So if you approach a woman and she gives you a resounding “No” immediately, do yourself a favor; go approach another beautiful woman.
The truth is that some people will just not like you, and there is nothing you can do to change that. Consider women who tell you a direct no as a blessing. She helps you avoid wasting your energy and time, giving you the chance to redirect these valuable resources elsewhere. So stop beating your head against the wall; seducers prefer to avoid it entirely.
The second type of woman is the “maybe” Woman’. This is the type of woman you really need to avoid. Almost any kind of man has ever gone through this scenario. You meet a girl who seems really interested in you. She laughs at your jokes, she plays with her hair when you are talking to her and she gladly gives you her number.
However, when you text her, she barely responds to your texts, and when you ask her out on a date, she doesn’t respond or rather she stands you up.
More often than not, these women are genuinely attracted to you but not enough to go out on a date with you leave alone have sex with you. Others are just flirting. The fact that there are tens or hundreds of men who are chasing her makes her feel good, or important.
There are few though that might be genuinely attracted to you, thus if you play your cards right, they might sleep with you. However, it is best to consider the maybe’ as o’s.’ These are the kind of girls men obsess about and spend their lives chasing. If you don’t change your traditional mentality about approaching women, you are going to be quite frustrated.
Approach the Right Women
This is the woman who is not only attracted to you but also wants to sleep with you. We can call these the yes’ women. As long as you don’t do or say anything too stupid, you a guaranteed to get laid with little hassle or trouble.
Not only will she say yes to most of your requests but she will also help you achieve your goal of getting laid during the seduction process. She has an immense attraction towards you and it is just a matter of playing your cards right on your part.
Talk to a Lot of Women
So far so good. You’ve learned how to identify women who are genuinely attracted to you. However, what good will this do you if you can’t talk to them? More often than not, a woman who is attracted to you will give you indicators of interest and that’s just it.
Few will ever have the guts to come talk to you. And guess what, men with the courage to approach women are the ones that these girls sleep with. So for you to get laid, you need to know how to pick up a girl.
Not just one girl, you need to talk to a lot of girls regularly, at the mall, in the bar, on the bus, in the subway, in the church and anywhere else. You really don’t need to have a clear objective or goal in mind.
You cannot afford to play a passive role with your sex and dating life. The more you approach them, the more confident you will become around them (read my article – How to Stop Being Shy Around Women [and in other social settings]. Girls are generally attracted to confident men, who seem to know what they want.
With time, you will realize that any girl will be flattered to have a guy like you approach her. Here’s is a secret you didn’t know. Women draw pleasure from being approached (read my article – How To Pick Up A Woman In A Grocery Store). It reassures them that they are still beautiful.
However, if she decides to act aloof or rude after approaching her in a gentleman manner, it’s to her loss and not yours. Don’t waste time chasing her because most of the girls who act like that are immature or have got lots of issues. Just replace her.
The girls need to enjoy your company for you to make them your girlfriend or for you to get laid. Steer clear of logical topics such as religion, politics, weather, video games or sports. To hold interesting conversations, talk about what girls like the most; themselves, their hobbies, their feelings, their future plans and goals and things that they are passionate about. Do this, and you will have an easy time talking to women.
It will also make the entire process of getting laid fun from the word go because you get to discover her dreams, goals and other new interesting things about her. You are bound to make mistakes when talking to girls. Some of which are circumstantial while others are purely your fault.
Even experienced seducers do make these mistakes. You should be able to determine, the mistakes that you can recover from and ones that you cannot so that you can bail out with little embarrassment!
Make Her Feel Safe and Comfortable… Always!
Men often make fatal mistakes because of two reasons. First, they never take time to understand what kind of a woman she is, and thus ends up saying or doing something that offends her or turns her off. The other mistake is that; men often do not respect women’s boundaries. Let’s start with the former.
The first mistake is mainly caused by the fact that; guys focus too much on sex. It is not their fault though. The conventional seduction guides tell them that all they need to do is to get women horny, and then she will be ready to rip his clothes off. Women typically need a reason to get to sleep with you.
So it all boils down to how you make her feel. You need to make her feel good, special and like she is the only person who matters at that moment. You need to build a connection that makes her feel understood and validated. However, making her feel understood and excited is not enough. You also need her to feel safe and comfortable. This takes us to the second mistake.
Men often don’t know how to handle no,’ especially the last minute resistance no. They treat it like something negotiable. The last-minute resistance is mainly because she cannot trust you not to slut-shame her just like other countless men have done after having the cookie.
So instead of trying to work around a no which often means “not just yet,” you should respect it. This, in turn, shows that you prioritize her comfort and safety. It is very liberating and shows the woman that she can trust you which often becomes a yes later on.
Remember – It’s A Dance, Not A Race
To learn how to get sex whenever you want, you need to exercise restraint, patience, and foresight. Most men grow impatient because they treat sex as a goal in seduction hence making rush moves that often end in futility.
Master seducers treat it as a holistic experience, a dance with rhythm and connection. As such, when you get to have sex, it is a joyous fulfilling experience whether it is just for one night or even for a long term relationship.
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